I preach nearly constantly that grown-ups shouldn’t talk bad about math.
And that’s really easy for me to preach. Because it’s easy to practice. For me.
I’ve never struggled out of control in math.
It’s not easy to “just say it.”
I’ve been asking people to say things that they’re extremely uncomfortable with. But I’ve not stepped up to the plate myself and done the same!
I’ve been reading a book called Daring Greatly by BrenĂ© Brown. She writes, “Be the adult you want your children to be.”
I want K8 to be happy with math. No problem – I’m happy with math.
But I also want her to be happy with her body, eating healthy and enjoying exercise.
Faking it is hard.
I have body image issues. I eat garbage and I don’t work out.
And I don’t want K8 to be like this.
Suppose someone told me, “All you have to do is say you like your body, eat right and exercise. Then your daughter will be fine.”
My response would be, “That’s great – for you. But it’s not so easy as just saying it. Jerk.”
It’s really hard for people to just say it.
I’m going to do what I’m asking you to do.
I’m going to step up to the plate and put my money where my mouth is.
I’m going to make a conscious effort for 25 days to be the adult I want K8 to be.
And it’s way outside my comfort zone.
I’m going to tackle my issues as if I don’t have them. I’m going to just say it.
Here are the things I’m going to do:
- First thing in the morning, I’m going to dress in workout clothes. When I workout, I’m going to say, “I’m going to exercise now.”
- I’m going to cut up some fruit for breakfast and say, “I’m eating fruit for breakfast, K8 – do you want some?”
- In the evening, I’m going to do something active with K8. Either throwing a frisbee, jumping on the trampoling or some Wii Dancing. I’m going to say, “Isn’t this fun being active together?”
- I’m going to eat vegetables with the evening meal. I’ll say, “I’m so glad we’re having broccoli tonight – vegetables are good for us.”
- And at least once during the day, I’ll comment on how how much I like my body.
And to track my progress, I’ll post all of this on the Facebook page.
The “Just Say It” challenge.
As I post my journey on the Facebook page, I’ll suggest things you can say for math.
You can join the talking-health challenge or the talking-math challenge. Or join both!
Either way – together we’ll learn to “Just say it!”
Ready… GO!
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I love it!
A big part of counseling is helping others develop a sense of empathy. The difficult part of that is this: It’s easy for us to empathize with others about something we struggle with, ourselves, but not so easy if that thing comes easy for us. As a counselor, I ask folks to empathize with the feeling, instead of the experience.
It looks like your doing a great job in creating this for yourself and showing your appreciation for those who are fighting the “good fight” in using positive math-talk. I think your readers will appreciate it!