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  • Parent Influence is Powerful

    Parent Influence is Powerful

    It’s hard to understand how parent influence really works. But your words and actions have a serious impact on your children.

    Even saying, “I haven’t done math in 15 years,” sends a decisive message to your kids: “I don’t need math as a grownup, and neither will you.”

    Kids want to do what you do.

    Here’s how powerful parent influence can be…

    K8 and I were getting ready for bed yesterday. I started taking off my eye makeup. She wanted to do it too.

    So I got out a cotton round for her and put a little makeup remover on it. She wiped her eye and was immediately annoyed.

    “I want brown!” she whined.

    My cotton round was full of removed makeup. Hers was white. She wanted to be like me.

    So I put a dab of liquid eyeliner on each of her lids. When she wiped it off, she had some “brown” on her cotton round too.

    Parent Influence is crazy powerful.

    How nuts that she wanted to have dirty eyes so she could clean them. It makes no logical sense.

    And that’s why your positive math talk is so important. Parent influence is the first and most impactful influence in your child’s life.

    As early as three years old (as K8 showed), they want to do everything exactly like you are doing. Exactly!

    So if you say you’re not good at math, they want to be not good at math too.

    So turn it around — be positive.

    Since parent influence has that kind of impact, make sure to keep it positive. Learn how to quit saying negative things about math.

    Have questions or suggestions on doing it? Leave them in the comments. And share this on twitter too!

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  • An Open Letter to Obama and Romney about Math Education

    An Open Letter to Obama and Romney about Math Education

    This is an open letter, please feel free to share onTwitter, via a printed copy or on your favorite social media site.

    Dear Mr. President and Mr. Romney,

    Thank you for supporting education and for being dedicated to improving the math learning in the United States. Americans all know that we may be in trouble when it comes to competing with the world in STEM fields — now and in the foreseeable future.

    I am not writing to give my method of how to fix the schools. We have plenty of those — both in theory and in action.

    Instead, I am writing to ask that you direct some of your considerable support towards a mission that is in great need of it: parent involvement for positive influence in math.

    WHAT’S MISSING

    Consider the influence that math-anxious grownups, such as parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, have on young children. Research has shown that social modeling — parents saying, “I was bad at math too, honey” — has a significant impact on the attitudes and level of engagement kids have when going into a math classroom.

    All the money invested in and all the programs that we currently use are ineffective if our children see their role models openly announcing that they don’t like or do math.

    What if we could get parents to notice the math that they do effortlessly all day, every day, and announce THAT to their children? Children would then see that math is something done daily — not just in a classroom with pencil and paper. Children would enter their math lessons excited to engage in the next math-related discussion. And research bears out that this engagement is what facilitates true learning.

    WILL IT WORK?

    We have seen this work in the literacy movement of the past decades. Reading is Fundamental, and its competitive and companion programs, have created a society where parents not only read to their children on a daily basis, but also read to their children in utero!

    How ridiculous to consider that reading to a child at such a young age will help them learn to read! But what it does do — and why the practice is effective and encouraged — is turn parents into positive reading role models. We have turned a society that was once comfortable with illiteracy into a society of readers. All from positive social modeling!

    And what is lacking in our STEM education, nationwide, is this positive influence from adults towards children regarding math. But it CAN be done!

    WE NEED YOUR HELP

    Please integrate a parent involvement element in your education programs to help parents learn to to be a positive influence in math. We’re working at a grass roots level but we can enact this change much more quickly if we have your help. We can stop leaving the children behind if we get the parents to start exerting educational influence early.

    With kindest regards,
    Bon Crowder, Writer & Publisher, Math Mom & Education Advocate

    This is an open letter, please feel free to share onTwitter/X, via a printed copy or on your favorite social media site.

  • 3 Words to Improve Your Child’s Success in Math

    3 Words to Improve Your Child’s Success in Math

    Yup – only three. Said by you, the parent and grownup. Say them loud, say them often. And contact me when you wonder where math is in your world – or leave a comment here!

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  • [50 Word Friday] Quit Counting Up to Punishment!

    [50 Word Friday] Quit Counting Up to Punishment!

    “You have until 5 to stop! 1, 2…” says the mom to her child.

    Isn’t it interesting how even punishment involves math? And it involves it negatively so!

    Why don’t we say, “Stop that. Now.”

    Or, “I’m going to give you until E to stop! … A, B, C, D, E.”

    Learn more about 50 Word Friday here.

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